Roxana Rosalie Dumuk Balay, 86, of Ogden, Utah passed away on April 26, 2023, surrounded by
her family. She was known to many as Ate Roxy, Auntie Roxy, and Lola Roxy. She is survived by
her husband Bernardino (Danny), her children Dennis, Noemi (Mimi), Roxanne, Mariane, Jeff,
and Zachary, her adopted daughter Anabelle, her sisters Emmeline D. Abellera and Melinda
Nuyles, and her dear grandkids, Meijke, Ashlin, Tomas, Bernardino Hal, Aiden, and Gemma.
Roxana was born on January 3, 1937 in Bauang, La Union, Philippines to Mariano Tomas Dumuk
and Naomi Balagot Dumuk. Roxy attended Manuel L. Quezon University in Manila where she
earned her Bachelor of Science in English and Philosophy. She met Danny Balay in 1963 and
they married in 1966. In 1982, she and Danny decided to emigrate to the United States in order
to provide greater opportunity for their family.
Roxy spent her years nurturing her family alongside her husband. She was a devout Catholic who lived the teachings of Christ and parishioner of St Joseph Catholic Church.
A viewing will be held on Wednesday, May 3, 2023, 6-8pm, at Aaron's Mortuary at 496 24th St in
Ogden. Funeral Mass will be held on Thursday, May 4, 2023, 10am, at St. Joseph Catholic
Church at 514 24th St in Ogden. At 12pm, family and friends are invited after to honor Roxy at
St James Church, 495 N Harrison Blvd, Ogden, UT 84404
Here are loving words in memory of Lola Roxy by her cherished grandchildren:
Meijke Noah Balay:
My favorite memories of my Lola are the summer vacations I spent with her growing up.
My cousins and I played all day long, while she cooked us our favorite foods and gave us
popsicles. At midday it was nap time but I could never sleep, so I laid next to her restlessly.
On Sundays we went to St. Joseph's for mass. "Don't forget to pray" she reminded me when I finally had to leave at summer's end. My Lola formed me as a person, and I hope to emulate her virtues in my life. The light of her life will shine on through me, my brother, and my cousins.
My Lola always took care of me. She helped me study for my spelling tests, cut my fruit, made
my favorite foods, gave me my favorite desserts, and most importantly, always supported me.
Although it will always hurt to not have her here, these memories bring me comfort. I will
always be inspired by her kindness, thoughtfulness, and love for her family. I will strive to
continue her legacy and make her proud.
Tomas Mariano Balay:
There are a lot of happy memories when I think about Lola Roxy, but my favorite is by far the
food. Since I was about twelve years old I have been mowing the lawn and occasionally helping
with other outside chores; I was always paid with ten dollars and a plate of whatever was
cooking. I may have not known what it was called, but if Lola cooked it I would eat it! I will
never forget the summers spent at Lolo and Lola's trying all sorts of new dishes I had never
Bernardino Hal Hansen:
Lola was the person who meaningfully introduced me to Filipino culture and ingrained that
culture in me. I still remember the first time she made me sinigang. I was sitting at her table,
complaining that the okra was slimy and disgusting. But being the woman that she was, she
made me eat said okra, and from then on I was hooked. I have her to thank for my connection
with my culture, be it through gardening, food, faith, or family. She taught me lessons that I will
never forget. Even though she's passed I know my connection to her remains through the
recipes she taught me and my mother, the family she's cultivated, and memories I cherish.
Aiden Edmund Holbrook:
Lola was a great influence in my life. She taught me many things, like how to spell and how to
eat certain foods (I still can’t eat vegetables though). I always loved to help Lola whether it was
doing the laundry or cleaning the yard. If it wasn't for her, I don’t think I'd be doing well in
school like I am now. She always checked if I was getting straight A's and I am thankful for that.
She always watched over me when my parents couldn't. I think the best part that I never
appreciated was when Lolo and Lola made me take naps daily when I stayed there, and even
now I wish I could nap more like that. Overall if it weren't for Lola, I wouldn't even be half the
person that I am now.
Gemma Isabella Balay:
My Lola was amazing to say the least. She's strong, kind, and more than I could ever hope to be.
The more I learn about her and her life, the prouder I am to be her granddaughter.
From her cooking to her genuine soul, she'll always be remembered. She made such a great,
wonderful impact on so many people as a mama, Lola, and friend. I'll see her in the stars and
the sea as the courageous woman she was and love her always.